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5 Helpful Tips to Win Your Ex Back

A hard breakup can make folks go to pieces, and picking yourself up for an honest effort to get your ex back can be really difficult. These 5 tips are to help give you an easier time of trying to make things work out for the best.

1. Life goes on, and letting it pass you by will just put in an even worse position than where you are. No matter how you feel, you need to keep living your life. Do things that you enjoy, it’ll do you a lot of good.

2. Too many people seem to feel that drugs or alcohol are an easy way out from the pain, but in truth it’s just an escape that can damage you more than help you. Find healthy ways to deal with your broken heart…seek help in your friends and family, or things you enjoy.

3. Odd as it may sound, it’s actually a good idea to cut off contact with your ex for about a month after you two break up. This can really help your situation in a number of ways: it keeps more conflict from flaring up from all the emotion flying around, it gives you both time to evaluate your situations, and lets you form a plan for how you can most effectively get him back when the time is up, so that you don’t have to just do whatever comes naturally and hope it works. This no-contact term means no contact, period…no email, no text messaging, no phone calls…nothing.

4. Go by your head, not your heart. Emotional turmoil like this can lead you astray where your mind knows you shouldn’t go. Trust in a solid plan, not in whatever your first impulses are.

5. It’s possible that you and your ex aren’t destined by fate to be together forever. I’m not telling you to just give up, but if everything fails and it just doesn’t seem to be meant to be you may have to live with that. Be prepared for it, even though that may not end up being the case (it often isn’t!).

These 5 words of advice should help you a lot in getting through this time and coming out successfully living your life, but only if you heed what they say. Remember this information, and you should have a lot simpler time surviving this breakup.

The best advice I can possibly give you right now is to make sure you have a plan. This is a great thing to be working on during that month of no contact, and it’ll really come in handy when that time is up and it’s time to work towards getting him back. Going into this without a plan or underlying strategy just isn’t wise, and you’ll probably find yourself having a lot harder of a time without it.

July 29th, 2008 Posted by Erik J. Michaels | Dating | no comments

Dating Tips: Keeping the Girl

Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.

And it’s quite sad.

There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.

But I had my head up my ass.

…maybe that’s a little rude.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. But I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I’ve accepted what I am.

Yes, I like video games and comic books.

But…

Do you think girls have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all have connection.

What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.

A woman won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don’t like yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I’m not excepted from them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are.

Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.

That is the indistinct you.

That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.

Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.

I’m not conscious about shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.

In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.

As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it’s not the woman’s fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach a woman and treat her like she’s on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.

If you’re struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.

July 29th, 2008 Posted by Vin DiCarlo | Dating | no comments

Helping Lonely Hearts via e-Mail

There are millions of people looking for their true love on the Internet. The challenge is that many feel intensely frustrated with the process. These love sick people are meeting all kinds of wrong people, or even worse, they’re not meeting anyone at all. That’s why many of them are turning to Online Dating Coach, Chaszey Sandhriel.

Chaszey says: “Most people don’t realize that what they truly want in a partner contradicts who they are themselves at the core. They are one thing and desire another.” She adds: “The beginning of successful Online dating starts with a profile that is unique because it projects the strength of who you are, because it shows your most authentic Self and because you are honestly communicating who you are really looking for in a partner.”

In order to create a successful profile, start with these three tips:

1. The right screen name Most people tend to forget that screen names communicate novels. Screen names like “ServeMeRight,” “Looking2Please69,” “WorshipGoddess” may communicate things to people that you had not intended. Try not to communicate too much with your screen name and definitely don’t leave room for guess work when choosing your screen name.

2. Choosing photos that work “People don’t realize that the main headshot is what many people base their decision on and based on this one picture some may never even look at the profile, so your main photo is the most important one,” says Chaszey. It’s amazing to see how many people put photos up wearing their sunglasses and baseball cap, covering just about anything important. This will result in many people never even opening up their profile. Your main photo should show your eyes and your face and you should not wear a hat, even if you’re bald. Photos that produce result show your eyes and face and you look into the camera. Photos should show you in a variety of settings, headshot, half body shot and full body shot. This is not the time to hide what you look like, this is the time to be honest.

3. Your profile Give an accurate and true picture when describing yourself. People don’t realize that online dating is not a writing contest and no awards are given anywhere to anyone. This is an attempt of the heart to finding that true love that you so deserve. Yet people try to do so by falsefying their profiles, making themselves sound like they want to be, rather than who they truly are. They don’t realize that by giving a false picture of themselves, no matter how great it sounds, never allows for that true love to come into their space. It’s a contradiction and it can only go one way: the wrong way. Instead, be honest, sincere, ethical and authentic. Don’t worry about what others think of you, it’s none of your business. Worry about accurately describing yourself so you can attract that one special person.

4. Clearly describe the partner you want to attract Everyone wants a “good woman” or a “great guy” but this doesn’t mean that your profile needs to sound like you’re looking for a Stepford wife or Prince Charming. Too many adjectives can result in people tuning out about what you’re really looking for. Perhaps you may want to try to describe how this person makes you feel or what you as a couple would do together. Write this part as if you’re talking to her or him directly.

Chaszey Sandhriel is the Nation’s number 1 Online Dating Coach and helps Daters create outstanding results. Visit www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call 415.419.7952 to get in touch with her.

July 29th, 2008 Posted by Chaszey Sandhriel | Dating | no comments

The Value of Free Online Dating Advice

Singles often find themselves at a loss when looking for advice on their relationships. Married couples have a background that can warrant counseling- but singles aren’t afforded this kind of luxury.

Consider this, if a single asks a date from a few days ago to go to counseling- that’s the last they’d see of that date! Here are the only two options singles have had until recently. Go to a friend for advice, or the good ole’ trial and error method.

There’s now a better way thanks to the Internet- Online Dating Advice for Free. Anonymous forums let singles have a whole new connection. Getting dating advice from one another allows singles to learn from the mistakes of others, thus allowing them to make less of their own!

If it’s an anonymous advice forum, they can even air their innermost fears without having to worry about being judged or becoming embarrassed. Anonymity equals complete honesty.

Advice from friends and family can be used as a supplement to the guidance received on these types of sites. One could discover that family and friends are not exactly pointing them in the best direction. Find out what a large sample of the population has to say about what you’re going through. You could discover the “great” advice you’ve always gotten, isn’t so great!

Now, people who use these online forums will still mess up, but isn’t it nice to know other people are messing up too?

After all, relationships are built on “relating“, and these sites offer just that.

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July 29th, 2008 Posted by stickysitch | Dating | no comments

Getting Your Ex Back - 6 Tips to Help You

After a breakup, when your life is in shambles, sometimes all you want is a little help getting your life back together and getting a second chance with the love of your life. Unfortunately, help like that can be hard to find…but you don’t have to scavenge through cyberspace anymore looking for help…you’ve found it! Here are several tips to help you raise the odds of successfully getting your ex back.

1) I know it seems like the last thing you’d want to do to get him back, but cutting off contact with your ex for about a month is actually surprisingly effective for a number of reasons. No matter what your situation, the separation will make the time you spend actively pursuing him a lot easier, and more likely to succeed.

2) Forget the romantic-comedy way of dealing with breakup pain. Lounging around soaking your couch with tears as you dejectedly pine away for your lost love until the world around you fixes your problems isn’t going to cut it in the real world. Getting your ex back in real life requires action, and action made by YOU!

3) Just because you are your only main resource doesn’t mean you can’t have a little support. Being with great friends or close family can do wonders for you, uplifting your spirits and helping you heal. I recommend spending a lot of time with people who love you, it’ll do you a lot of good and when you feel better you’ll be better-equipped to get him back.

4) Take some pride in yourself, and enjoy your life in spite of the pain. Now’s the time to look your best ALL the time, and avoid idle sadness by keeping busy in social environments. Do a full inventory of your physical appearance and change anything you don’t like, and then strut your stuff out in the clubs or parties. Looking good combined with the attention you’ll get from local singles will help build your self-confidence back up, and may even inspire a little jealousy in your ex…who may be having a rougher time of things.

5) When you’re working to get your ex back, make sure you’re not depending on anyone but yourself. You’re the only one who can make sure this all goes according to plan, because you’re the only one you can count on. Don’t trust your ex to take part in this or do as you want him to…you’ll have to make allowances for things he may do and take care to do the things that are sure to cause him to do what you need him to do. Remember, any sacrifices made for the two of you will have to be made by you…it’s unfair, but it’s how it is.

6) Things don’t fix themselves, and even when they get fixed they don’t always stay that way just by default. When you do get your ex back, it’s important not to let this happen again. The things the two of you resolved when you got back together should never affect your relationship again, and it’s YOUR job to make sure of it. Letting things go again just because the hard part seems to be over is nothing but a great way to bring about more trouble and heartache. If you really value your relationship, take care of it.

Remember these tips, and you should find that your entire experience pursuing your ex for another try will be a whole lot easier to get through, and far more likely to succeed. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world when you break up with a loved one…and hopefully this article has helped you to see that. Good luck!

July 29th, 2008 Posted by Erik J. Michaels | Dating | no comments