Dating Tips: Keeping the Girl
Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.
And it’s quite sad.
There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.
But I had my head up my ass.
…maybe that’s a little rude.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. But I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.
I’ve accepted what I am.
Yes, I like video games and comic books.
But…
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I’m into?
It’s all have connection.
What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.
A woman won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself.
Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don’t like yourself?
She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.
Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”
Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.
And I’m not excepted from them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.
But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.
Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.
Because it is you.
You are not separated from your game.
Your game IS YOU. The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are.
Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but the one that stop you from expressing what you really want to express is your ego and your old mental habits.
Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.
I’m not conscious about shaping.
Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.
In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.
As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it’s not the woman’s fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach a woman and treat her like she’s on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.
Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
We go into this deeper in our workshop. I have developed a lot of ways on how to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.
I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.
But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.
If you’re struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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